“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” — Wayne Dyer
Like chalk and cheese, goal setting and the mid year don’t ever seem to be put together in the same sentence. Most people I speak to, set New Year resolutions in January and either dropped them all together in the first few weeks or are still loosely following them through.
For those that dropped them, they’re mindlessly going through the year hoping they can make the change they so desire but figure they’ll add it to their list for January in the New Year.
They forget we still have over 6 months of the year to go and ride the whole year off as opportunity lost. The middle of the year is as good a time as any to set intentional, behavioural goals no matter what your focus is. In fact, I’d say there’s no time like the present in setting a goal.
Perhaps you’ve spent the first half of the year enjoying countless public holidays, warmer weather, longer days and now with the jump to winter, reality has struck you hard and fast. Its mid-year, what have I achieved?
Goal setting seems to be one of those activities that people either love, like or loathe. I sometimes change the term goal setting to outcome or steps when I am working with a client just so I can get them focused on what they want without the pressure.
It’s a common thread I see often, I’ve been there myself. You aimlessly spend days “doing” so much, running around, feeling busy and perhaps being busy but not actually having much to show for it.
This is why I am such a big advocate for goal setting but behavioural goal setting. Goals that make you take action, create new habits and rituals for a happier and fulfilling life. I love that it directs your energy to something that interests you or are passionate about. Or perhaps it is a goal around creating a change like a new career, getting healthier or fitter or finding your passion.
My head is full of steps, tips and tricks on setting goals but below are some of the more profound steps to take.
- Define your values – and when I say your values, I mean yours. As mothers we automatically start to think about what is best for my family and we define our values based on what our family want or need. When in actual fact your values are going to create a ripple effect in your family anyway. So, what is important to you right now? Your values are your deepest desires, your motivation, your focus for what you want to achieve. Once you know your values, you can then make better decisions that align with your values. Some examples of values are health, wealth, friendship, growth, connection, love, compassion, kindness, etc. You can probably see from the list above that when you define your values you naturally gravitate to wanting to live by them through your decisions and your actions. You say yes to things that align with your values and your push away guilt when you say no to other things that won’t have you living to your values.
- Create your vision – From knowing your values, you can create a vision for the different areas of your life. What do you want your career to look like? What do you want from a workplace? What sort of mother or wife do you want to be? What do you look like as your fit, healthy self? What I love about this stage is that you can dare to dream. We all have desires and wishes for what our life could look like, why not put it on paper and then set goals to go about achieving it?
- Set your goals – I’m not sure if this is my favourite step but what excites me about goal setting is that it is the first step to taking action. Once you set your goal you have a clearer idea of what you want to achieve and then you can work backwards from there. I typically work on a quarterly basis, setting a couple of 3 monthly goals. I then work week by week to create weekly, actionable bite sized goals which are going to get me closer to my bigger goal bit by bit. My biggest tip when it comes to goal setting is being specific with what you want, having a time frame, setting yourself up to succeed whilst being challenged at the same time and then measuring and celebrating your progress towards it, even if you didn’t quite get to your dream mark.
Goal setting is a process that once you start will have you setting goals in all areas of your life. Goal by goal, your confidence grows and motivation skyrockets because you realise that you can achieve what you set your mind (and your goal) to. Mid year goal setting also changes your perspective about what is possible for the rest of the year ahead. I know post June 30 the year can spiral quickly into Christmas and another new year, but through goal setting you can make your way there with action, intention and focus.